hOW TO cREATE A SUccESSFUl mARRIAGEIn the story, at the beginning of this chapter, you will find that Joseph
was a typical Unique.
When the Unique is expressing its more unconventional side, they often
will wear unusual clothes that set them apart, or they will show rings or
other pieces of jewelry on uncommon places on their body; or they will
have flashy artificially colored hair; or they may display distinctive tat-
toos that make them look different to everyone else.
If the negative expression is taken to an extreme, the Unique can become
terrorists or serial killers, in order to achieve recognition in a negative
and destructive way and thus be always remembered as special and dif-
ferent from everyone else.
(C) the Diversifier
When influencing lives in a positive way, the Diversifier will show a
fast-paced living style, with many changes and uncertainties about the
future. They typically love variety and surprises when interacting with
their spouse and they will feel easily bored in a marriage surviving on
an automatic pilot, full of routines which are not exciting. They love
the thrill of living on the edge. They look for constant stimulation and
changes. Diversifiers are also inclined to get involved in physical. They
are very intimate in their married life and can be very good lovers.
When Diversifiers are exhibiting their more negative characteristics,
they become very emotionally driven, easily irritated and frustrated, be-
cause they tend to live more in their ever-changing variety of emotions
than in their cool stable head. They can be unpredictable, moody and at
times even rude or aggressive with their spouse.
(D) the Cautious
In the positive expression, the Cautious typically look for security and
safety in their marriage. Contrary to Diversifiers, they live a slow-paced
life, full of routines and repetitions. They like to live in their comfort
zone, without too many changes or unpredictable consequences from
their actions. They dislike uncertainties, variety and surprises.
When Cautious are expressing their negative influence, growth will be
impaired because of their resistance to changes and the discomfort of
accepting new and different ideas in their marriage.