Supervising the sons Behavior
Inmostcasesoftheethicalcrimesthatarecommittedbyjuveniles,the
source is heeded to be the fathers’ negligence of superintending their
sonsanddiscountingthesignalsofaberrancetheyshow.Naturally,chil-
dren whose conscience and mind are imperfect cannot distinguish
betweengoodandevil.Aschildrennoticethatnoproblemorreproach
occurredowing to theirdoing abad deed, theywill certainlykeep up
doing it habitually.
Islamhasurgedfathersonassociatingandsupervisingthebehaviorsof
theirearlychildrenforsavingthemagainstthepollutionofcrimesthat
arearisenfromaberrance.Nowadays,itisunfortunatelynoticeablethat
fathersdisdainthisconditiononwhichthefutureoftheirchildrenrelies.
Thisterriblenegligenceledtotheyoung’sdeviationandmoraldegrada-
tion. Violenceandirregularity have become the nature of most young
men’s behaviors and morals.
Oneoftheugliestsortsofnegligenceanddeviationfromthesoundedu-
cationalcoursesistheunsupervisedmixingofthetwosexesofthesame
agein schoolsanduniversities.Inmostcases,suchmixingmayinduce
youngwomentolosechastityandavertthebehavioralcriteriaofprob-
ity.
Fathersareliable-beforeGod-forsupervisingtheirsons’behaviorand
turning them aside from all of the evil tendencies. Al-Ghezali says,
“Optingforcertainmethodsofeducating isoneof themostsignificant
andconsiderabletasks.Achildishisfather’strust.Hisstainlessheartis
apreciousgemthatisclearfromanyimageorpicture.Itisbecomingto
receiveanyimageandfollowanyway.Ifachildisinuredtogood,this
willsticktohismind,andthe pleasureof thisworldandtheHereafter
willbeamassedforhim.Parents,tutors,andtrainersofchildrenhavea
shareinhisrewards.Inversely,ifachildisinuredtoevil,andneglected
likeanimals, nonsuccess andlosswill be the result.The guardian will
undergo the sin of misguidance. God the Exalted says:
Oyouwhobelieve!Saveyourselvesandyourfamiliesfromafirewhose
fuel is men and stones; over it are angels
sternandstrong,theydonotdisobeyAllahinwhatHecommandsthem,
and do as they are commanded.
Fathersshouldsavetheirchildren againstthe hell-fireandthatof this
world. Fathers’ salvation is educating, disciplining, and leading their
childrentothenobletraitsandkeepingthemagainstassociatingwiththe