Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^182) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
things you like to do and places you like to go.
Men, not being too nice is a mandatory, all inclusive
mandate you must follow to have The Right Attitude.
Who knows? Who cares? Too nice does not work in the
beginning and for an unknown time thereafter.
Commode is spelled Like accommodate. Use this
memory association technique to prevent your affair
from ending up in the commode.
As a woman, you must be constantly aware of your
intuition, then trust it. Your emotions cannot, and will
not, lie to you. But, you can deceive yourself by ignor-
ing your emotions and intuition. That's blinding your-
self, then complaining that you could not see he was a
dishonest hustler.
As a man, you are being evaluated by a woman who
has an infallible truth detecting device, her intuition.
Don't lie. As a woman, don't deny yourself the greatest
means you have of knowing if he's telling the truth.
Use your intuition and trust it.
THE LISTS
Here's a summary of the gestures liars use:
SPEAK NO EVIL
SEE NO EVIL
HEAR NO EVIL
FEEL NO EVIL
TOUCHES MOUTH
TOUCHES EYE
TOUCHES EAR
UNGROUNDED FEET
From across the room, these are the Signs Of Inter-
est in the approximate courtship sequence.
I'M INTERESTED DON'T BOTHER ME
Sidelong glance(s)
Looks at you a few times
Holds your gaze briefly
Downcast eyes, then away
Posture changes to alert
Preens, adjusts hair, attire
Turns body toward you
Tilts head
Narrows eyes slightly
Twists, tugs at ring
Never sneaks a peek
Fleeting eye contact
Looks away quickly
Looks away, eyes level
Posture unchanged
Does no preening
Turns body away
Head remains vertical
Eyes remain normal
Shows ring-back of hand
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Smiles
Matches your posture
Eyes sparkle
Licks her lips
Moves hand to her hip
Thrusts breasts
Neutral, polite face
Posture unchanged
Normal or dull eyes
Keeps mouth closed
Posture unchanged
Sags to de-emphasize breasts
First conversation—these are the signals that tell
you what to do. Women only indicated by italics:
KEEP TALKING MOVE
Alert, energetic
Pupils dilated
Gradually opens posture
Lowers drink
Touches self gently
Caresses objects
Crosses and uncrosses legs
Flashes of palm
Crossed legs steady
Dangles shoe on toe
Hands never touch face
Touches you any reason
Feet firmly on floor
Loosens anything
Leans forward
Steady hands, feet
ON
Tense, restless
Normal or small pupils
Posture remains closed
Keeps drink chest high
Grips or pinches self
Squeezes, taps objects
Legs remain crossed
Back of hand gestures
Swings crossed legs
Keeps shoe on
Touches face
Never touches you
Feet on edges or toes
Tightens anything
Leans away
Tapping, drumming
During subsequent conversations, these are the
signals that tell you what to do:
YOU'RE DOING GREAT! ONLY BEING POLITE
Keeps eyes on you
Head tilts farther
Smiles broadly and often
Hands open, relaxed
Puts anything in mouth
Posture changes to yours
Turns body toward you
Sucks straw, looks at you
Removes eyeglasses
Looks around room
Head only slightly tilted
Smiles slightly
Hands closed
Nothing goes in mouth
Maintains posture
Keeps body facing away
Looks away and drinks
Puts on eyeglasses