Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

Signs Of Interest 27

Believe only half of what you see and

none of what you hear.

UNKNOWN WISE PERSON

Signs Of Interest
Women, keep that geek away! Get that guy in the
red shirt to come over here and talk. Send each man
an unspoken but unmistakable message.
Men, don't get shot down because you approached
a woman who is not interested in you. Pay attention
to what she's saying without words.
Here are signs of interest sent from across the
room. Most are applicable to both sexes, although a
few apply only to women. Those are indicated by
italics. The sequence of the list approximates the
courtship sequence.
I'M INTERESTED
Sidelong glance(s)
Looks at you a few times
Holds your gaze briefly
Downcast eyes, then away
Posture changes to alert
Preens, adjusts hair, attire
Turns body toward you
Tilts head
Narrows eyes slightly
Twists, tugs at ring
Smiles
Matches your posture

DON'T BOTHER ME

Never sneaks a peek

Fleeting eye contact

Looks away quickly

Looks away, eyes level

Posture unchanged

Does no preening

Turns body away

Head remains vertical

Eyes remain normal

Shows ring-back of hand

Neutral, polite face

Posture unchanged

Eyes sparkle

Licks her lips

Moves hand to her hip

Thrusts breasts

Normal or dull eyes

Keeps mouth closed

Posture unchanged

Sags to de-emphasize breasts

FROM ACROSS THE ROOM In the first photo, she

looks at the man she wants with a slight smile on her

face. Notice that her wine glass is not directly in front

of her as a barrier. Also notice that her empty hand is

not gripping her knee, because that indicates getting

hold of herself.

In the second photo, she has looked at him again.

She has removed her glasses (a barrier) and has barely

tilted her head. Her smile is slightly bigger.

In the third photo, she has put her glass and her

glasses down. Her posture has shifted from relaxed to

erect and ready. She has turned so that her breasts face

the man directly. Notice the open hand on her lap and

uncrossed legs with feet flat on the floor—signs of open-

ness and readiness. Finally, notice she is preening by

checking her ear ring. That action also flashes her

palm at the man.