Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^28) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
SIDELONG GLANCE
Both men and women announce their interest by
sneaking a peek. It begins with a look out of the
corner of their eyes. The next time they look at you,
they turn their head in your direction ever so
slightly. The first sidelong glance is to see if you're
worth looking at again. The second glance is to verify
what they saw out of the corner of their eyes. When
they look at you again, they are deciding if you are
worth talking with.
LOOKS AT YOU A FEW TIMES
Both sexes follow sidelong glances by looking di-
rectly at the person a few times, but only for the
socially appropriate length of time. They are verify-
ing what they saw when sneaking a peek. The more
often they look, the greater the interest. As with
sidelong glances, they are still evaluating you.
HOLDS YOUR GAZE BRIEFLY
The person stares at you until you look at them,
then they hold your gaze for longer than is socially
appropriate. The way a woman breaks off this type of
eye contact is significant.
DOWNCAST EYES
Women, if you are interested, look down before
looking away. This your first act of submission and
the first sign of reassurance that he will not be hurt if
he comes over and talks with you.
Men, when you are the object of interest, after she
has held your gaze long enough, give her a slight
nod and a slight smile to acknowledge her existence
then look away.
After breaking off, if the other person preens or
changes posture to erect and ready, you have his, or
her, interest. Shortly afterwards, if the person turns
so the front of their body faces you when they are
not looking in your direction, that's strong interest.
Signs Of Interest 29
DOWNCAST EYES After eye contact has been sus-
tained for slightly longer than is socially appropri-
ate, when the female looks down before she looks
away, it is a solid sign of interest.
This is a universal body language signal. Every
culture, on every continent, features downcast female
eyes as an early indicator of interest. It is one of the
most reliable single gestures.
POSTURE CHANGES TO ERECT
When anyone becomes interested, they shift from
casual and relaxed, to energized and erect, even
when seated. This movement is among the most re-
liable single gestures. Although it's a slight change,
you will notice if you are paying attention.
PREENING
After noticing someone attractive, we all adjust
ourselves. Some common gestures: men fix their
ties, women fluff their hair. Both sexes check their
jewelry to be certain it is properly displayed. Quite
reliable when following initial sustained eye-contact.
TILTS HEAD
When someone looks at you, holds your gaze
briefly, then tilts their head, it means they are in-
terested as well as seriously considering you. How-