Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^64) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
Here are the gestures she, or he, uses to tell you
that you have crossed the line and now you should
move on.
THAT'S ENOUGH, GO AWAY!
Looks away often Shifts posture, turns away
Becomes tense Stops smiling, starts frowning
Brushes imaginary lint Sits up straight
Crosses arms, legs Picks up drink
Locks ankles under chair Hands close, clench
Drums fingers, swings leg, taps foot.
RAISES OK PICKS UP DRINK
The person is replacing the barrier that was low-
ered or set aside. This shuts you out.
BRUSHES AWAY IMAGINARY LINT Gives you "the
brush off," literally. Also seen when the person is,
disbelieving, angry, bored. It can also mean that the
person believes he is vastly superior to a piece of lint
like you.
RHYTHMIC MOTIONS
Finger drumming, toe tapping, swinging leg, leg
bouncing up and down on tip of toe, using swizzle
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stick or anything else as a drumstick (club) and all
other such movement indicates the person is disin-
terested, bored, impatient, nervous or angry.
HANDS CLOSE, CLENCH INTO FISTS
Closing up emotionally and closing you out. Usu-
ally indicates anger. The person may be subcon-
sciously getting ready to hit you.
CROSSES ARMS, LEGS
The person is closing you out physically which
closes you out emotionally. As mentioned before, can
also indicate a closed mind.
LOCKS ANKLES UNDER CHAIR Similar to clench-
ing one's hands and crossing one's legs or arms. You
are being closed out. Can also be an attempt at control-
ling one's emotions, usually fear but if other signs are
positive the person is controlling excitement.