Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^84) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
FIND HIM
Let's be honest. The man you want to meet, Mr.
Right, is not desperate. He is not searching. He is
taking care of himself. Don't you agree? If so, please
accept that Mr. Right is not looking for you or any-
body else. He's busy with his life and his interests.
Do not try to find him any place where men try to
meet women. Why not? (1) Most men who hang out
in bars or clubs are losers with no life. (2) Women
who frequent those places are hardened meat-
market pros. Why compete with pros? (3) Even if he
is there, his guard is up to protect himself from
manipulative, game-playing liars. When his guard is
up, you can't tell if he is Mr. Right or Mr. Hyde.
Find him when he's not looking for women. You
will catch him, pun intended, with his guard down.
Where? Parties at friends or acquaintances; wed-
ding receptions; playing sports you play such as vol-
leyball or softball; taking classes like Swiss Franc
Investing, Auto Mechanics or Stock Market Funda-
mentals; attending a club meeting such as Chamber
of Commerce, Rotary, Elks, or Lions.
Besides bars, other places that are packed with
losers: how to meet people seminars, pop psychology
workshops of any kind, and all gatherings sponsored
by singles clubs.
ATTRACT HIM
The woman who brazenly exhibits her physical
assets will get the attention of every man in the
room, initially. However, after a short time, most
men lose interest. She has revealed everything.
There is no untold story. There is no mystery. There
is no reason to start, let alone, continue the chase.
Exceptions are adolescent boys of all ages and
men who want an arm-charm or those seeking an
attractive physical presence, not a real woman.
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SECRETS ATTRACT MEN
Men love secrets. They join secret clubs with
secret signs and secret passwords. They love spy
novels and movies about manly men who steal
secrets. To strongly attract, then hold a man's at-
tention, and interest, you must have a secret.
ATTIRE SECRETS
Half of the story is more engaging than the whole
story. A backless dress with an inherently modest
front is a strong draw once he sees you from the
rear. Long skirts with moderately suggestive splits
are far more enticing than short shirts.
The hope of catching a glimpse of your breast
down that slightly scooped neckline is far more
arousing than cleavage. We hang around hoping you
will lean over further next time.
Tight jeans, tight skirts, and tight tops are atten-
tion grabbers. But, they reveal, rather than appetiz-
ingly conceal, thus only attract the immature or
lascivious. Why stick around after we've seen every-
thing you've got?
Anticipation is arousing. Be secretive. Be sugges-
tive. Be almost-but-not-quite. Lure us with the un-
known. Imply there's much more than meets our
eye.
FIRST, CATCH HIS EYE
Waiting for Mr. Right or Prince Charming to
notice you is futile unless you are as beautiful, as
built and as well dressed as Cinderella.
Bend over and fix your shoe. Any and all move-
ment attracts attention. But this particular move
also exposes your bottom—a primal attention grab-
ber.
Walk across the room, then begin a striptease by
peeling off your blazer and hanging it on a chair.
Create more movement. Visit the rest room. Dur-
ing the trip, you conduct an ancient courtship ritual,