(^88) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
termine if you like him or not. Send him the signals
that match your decision.
ESSENCE OF ATTRACTING MEN
As a woman you have the power to send discreet
and distinct, yet potent, signals without words, thus
without risk. Once again, use what you have.
Beyond smiling at him from across the room, the
most powerful thing you can do is touch him. After
shaking his hand, touch him. It makes no difference
when, how, where or why. Two or three times dur-
ing the first conversation is an excellent start.
Brush his hand lightly when handing him some-
thing. Admire and touch any of his accessories or
attire. "Accidentally" bump his leg with your knee
as you change positions. Any semi-plausible reason
or accident or excuse is fine.
Much of the next chapter, Courtship Tactics For
Men, applies to women as well. The parts that don't
are obvious.
Nobody wants to be second fiddle.
THE AUTHOR'S MOTHER
About taking a stand on who I should ask to the prom.
Courtship
Tactics For Men
All my life I've heard that love comes along when
you least expect it. I can vouch for the truth of that
adage except for the very first time.
I was trying to meet someone when I met my first
wife. I was 19, she was 17. My friend and I were
cruising the boulevard. She and her friend were
promenading.
Twelve years later, my second wife walked into
my life when I least expected it. Later, in June of
1993, I went to a local coffee shop simply to escape
my sweltering house and met Joanna. We live in
paradise, on the Big Island of Hawaii. This book is
dedicated to her.
Here's more evidence. Since divorcing in 1982, I
have never been able to date a woman I met in some
other way than being introduced by a mutual friend
or she introduced herself or I introduced myself at:
(a) social gathering (b) class or club meeting (c) my
company or (d) her work place after being a cus-
tomer for weeks.
Okay men! What conclusion can we reach from
these facts? When you're not trying, you have The
Right Attitude.
nancy kaufman
(Nancy Kaufman)
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