Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

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you talked about this in your book, I was also very
laid back and non-aggressive. I was giving off vibra-
tions that I liked her, but I didn't need her. I can tell
there are good things ahead for me with Marie.
What is your experience with French women? I
noticed she is very lively compared to a lot of Ameri-
can girls. I think that French women are more open
to go out with older men. Thanks for your help.
Steve Dillingham, El Paso
Steele Sez: I have no experience with French fe-
males other than when I was in the Army stationed
on the French border of Germany. They all stunk,
literally! So much for their sophisticated stereotype.
I sincerely believe that women everywhere are
the same. However, if she came from France, she
has been exposed to older man-younger woman pos-
sibilities in a positive light, unlike her American
"sistahs." So, you will have that going for you. Do
not discuss this topic with her until your second an-
niversary!
Congratulations on maintaining The Right Atti-
tude at dinner. May you continue to maintain it un-
til the end of the fourth month, when you can let it
slip a bit, only a bit.
Further congratulations are in order for master-
ing Body Language Secrets and the concept of lead-
ing by example and understanding mirroring. I hope
readers will have their collective awareness raised
by your success in grasping one of the key features
of courtship body language. It will also help readers
understand the concept of "controlling" the situation
by controlling yourself!
GIFTS AND BODY LANGUAGE
Don, There is someone I work with that I am
quite fond of. There isn't much office politics in-
volved because it's a part time position.
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Whenever we talk, things go great. Unfortu-
nately, there isn't too much opportunity to chat,
since it's usually always hectic.
I decided to go out on a limb and buy her a little
gift. Nothing big, really, a little chocolate egg with a
plastic toy inside.
She really seemed to love it! But I'm wondering if
she loved it because someone just gave her a gift, or
if it's because the gift was from me. What would be
some body language signs I could look out for? No
name, please.
Steele Sez: The only way to know if she liked the
gift because it was from you is to know if she is in-
terested and attracted to you. The only way to know
that, is to interact with her and watch for the signs
of interest during conversation.
Study Body Language Secrets, Do the homework.
Become extremely aware of your own body lan-
guage. Practice sitting and standing and talking just
as if you are relaxed, confident, mildly interested
and slightly aloof. Pretend you are an actor. Then,
practice, practice, practice.
TIP: When you are acutely aware of your own
body language, you automatically become acutely
aware of everyone else's.
ACCIDENTS DON'T HAPPEN
Don, Help! A woman bumps into me "acciden-
tally" in the bookstore or the grocery store. I know
that means she's interested. Tom Paulick, Seattle
Steele Sez: When she indicates interest by
touching, wait a moment then smile, nod and say
"Finding anything interesting?" Wait. Make certain
your body language is open and relaxed. Make cer-
tain there are at least four feet between the two of
you so that she does not feel threatened.
She will reply to your question with "No!" (fuck
off) or "Not yet." (maybe) or she'll say, "Yes," (yes).