148 BODY LANGUAGE SECRETStly to her, letting her know you intend no harm,
showing no fear while radiating, "I'm in charge here."
When you can do that she'll let you mount her and
won't buck you off.
There are 13 million young women out there. At
this very moment a half a million of them are being
courted by men twice their age. Tens of thousands are
having affairs with an older man right now, loving
every minute. So how do you get involved?
You already date women, right? No matter how old
she is, the steps are the same: find, meet, talk, date.
What's the problem then, you ask?
The Problem. Clearly stated, you don't know how
to: (1) find her (2) meet her and (3) talk with her.
Dating follows naturally if you converse with her cor-
rectly based on the rules of engagement as she under-
stands them. Presently you solve this three-part
problem several times each year, the only difference is
the female's age.
Find Her. Where do you find women right now? At
work, in bars, attending classes, through friends, at
parties and sometimes in the most unexpected places,
like the post office. You find young women in the same
places! No bleep, you say. Well, everywhere except
bars. Forget them, much more later. My point is,
finding her is not a big part of this problem.
Meet Her. It's no different from meeting a woman.
You introduce yourself, someone introduces you or she
introduces herself. You have nearly all the skills and
resources right now. This part of the problem is solved
with only your big head, some chutzpah and learning a
few techniques. But that's after, only after, you under-
stand her, what she wants from you and what she's
afraid of.
Talk With Her. Look closely at this one. It is made
up of two tasks. Task A is delivering an opening line
that won't make her laugh at you or scare her away.
For Christ's sake, don't use any from How to Pick Up
Girls. Task B is sustaining the conversation long
How To Date Young Women 149enough for her to realize you are (a) safe (b) interest-
ing and (c) attractive.
Essence Of The Problem. The substance, the es-
sential difference, the core, or, to put it more suc-
cinctly, the entire bleeping thing comes down to Task
B with its four sub-tasks.
Sustained Contact. You have to talk with her for
a minimum of four or five minutes. At this point you
don't know much about talking with anyone under 25.
You don't yet have the ability to carry on a conversa-
tion she can, like, relate to. You know, like, on her
level. Simple, you know, like friendly, relaxed, you
know, like, well, totally casual. No, they're not all air
heads or valley girls. But casual is what every last one
of them needs to realize you're not dangerous. She is
afraid you might be physically dangerous as well as
socially and emotionally dangerous.
Physical Danger. She thinks you could be the
Night Stalker's brother or a dirty old man trying to
cop a feel. Being relaxed and friendly makes it possible
for her to see you're safe. You do this with women.
Young women just take longer.
But it isn't how much longer it takes her. The real
problem is your lust, your excitement, your impa-
tience, your lack of confidence, your fear of rejection.
These combine, causing you to radiate bad vibrations.
She picks them up and thinks you could be very dan-
gerous, at which point she says, "Later, old man," with
or without words.
Social Danger. You'll soon learn how to control
yourself and your emotions when talking with her.
Then you must figure out how to calm her fear of the
threat you pose to her socially. In simple English, you
learn how to not be direct or obvious. You have to be
casual enough so she doesn't have to worry her
friends, peers, and possibly her boyfriend, will ridicule
or reject her if she's seen talking with you.
The problem is not her fear, it's you but not your
emotions. You haven't mastered the art of being cas-