Life Skills & Leadership: Unit 2, Session 7: Looking at Conflict | Page 109 of 127What is a possible solution where they both could win?” (Possible answers: The son could
find a trade school closer to home. He could agree to work in the family business for a few
years then go study to be an electrician. The son could learn his trade by working with a
local electrician.)B. Summary
Summarize by stating:
“Identifying interests and positions is one strategy that helps us see more possible solutions to
problems or conflict, so that we can find one that is acceptable for everyone.”IV. Application (30 minutes)
Materials:
Flip chart 2: Tough Issues
A. Discovering Interests
Participants search for commonalities among their interests in a controversial topic.
- Ask participants to identify some controversial issues in their community. Say:
“I’d like you to look for your own and other people’s interests in some situations or with some issues
that you experience frequently. Let’s begin by making a list of some topics. Please help me think of
some issues that people in our group today might have different opinions about. I’ll make a list on the
flip chart.”Note: Be prepared to offer some suggestions. It might be easier if you encourage people to think in terms of “should” or
“must” language since we have been associating those words with the language of a person’s position. What are things
people should do or must not do?- If participants are having trouble generating ideas, here are some suggestions that might produce
conflicting opinions in your group. Be culturally sensitive about which you decide to suggest or use:
Students should always do their homework before meeting their friends.
Youth should always do what their parents tell them to do.
Students should never question their teachers.
Once you are married you should never divorce.
The man should always be the head of the house.
Note: Alternatives could include issues such as the ethics of human rights abuses, freedom of speech or expression, health
and reproductive issues, etc. If participants bring up topics such as these, it might be all right to use them, but it is best to
check with a local counterpart about culturally appropriate subject matter for discussion with your group.- Begin the activity. Say:
“Let’s begin with the first topic. Notice that I have written these topics in a way that they depict a
particular position. (Notice the use of words like should and ought to.) Some of you probably agree
with the first position and others of you probably don’t. I would like you to move to the left side of