The Dating Black book

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The Flake/The Sketch: This woman is totally incapable of follow-through. She will make
plans with the best intentions, but your ability to actually hook up with her is next to zero. She
even comes across with sincerity, making you think she’ll follow through this time, but let’s you
down. She never delivers.



  • Always late, frequently no-showing

  • Fails to follow through on promises

  • Very inconsistent between what she says and what she does

  • Never returns calls or emails


The Thrill-Seeker: She wants to experience all the highs life has to offer. She’ll take you
along on her reckless adventures, which often flirt with wildness you don’t need. She only wants
to be around you when it’s fun.



  • Loves to stay out late at clubs and party – slave to the “good times”

  • Impulsive about her plans

  • Labels you a killjoy if you put a damper of common sense on her constant
    flightiness

  • Loses interest quickly. You have to be doing something new and fantastically
    interesting to keep her attention

  • Very often the “bad-girl” stereotype


The Bitch/Nag: You see this trait by the bushel. She manipulates her men through a
constant stream of verbal assaults. She’s one of the trickier ones to handle since she’ll often
have a sweet side that she uses to keep you interested. You’ll sometimes think: Well, it’s not
that bad. She’s often very unpleasant and impossible to please.



  • At first, she just seems like a “strong personality,” which is attractive at first
    but rapidly progresses into something more sinister

  • She tends to tell you to “shut up” frequently, and tries to end conversations on
    her terms

  • Pulls an attitude when she wants to get her way – sulks a lot

  • Jealous – to the extreme

  • Restricts your time with other guys

  • She has a hen-pecked father

  • She will use repetition to get you to comply (Nagging)

  • Will bring up past issues constantly. Things never seem to get resolved.


The Control Freak/Man-master: This type is a more dominant form of the Bitch/Nag.
She wants to have you completely under her thumb, and isn’t shy about letting you and
everyone else know. (See “The Need to Change You.”)



  • She seems like a strong personality in the beginning, and this lures you in.
    She has a lot of male (yang) traits, and you may be lured in with her ability to
    morph into one of the guys.

  • Controls conversations initially

  • She has a hen-pecked father

  • Answers your phone/reads your mail/snoops through your stuff

  • Jealous – to the extreme

  • Restricts your time with other guys

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