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APPENDIX IV: BRASH THINGS TO SAY....................................................................................................


Women love it if you come across a little bit cocky. Here are some phrases to analyze,
re-write, and use when talking with women. They work if you don’t say them with a weak, needy
tone. Once you’ve gotten the hang of them, you’ll see that almost every situation will give you
an opportunity to tease and be a little brash. The key point in using this kind of approach is to
work on your humor, because that’s what takes the edge off what might be considered an
arrogant comment. (Notice also, how many times the female stereotype is turned around. This
is a great way to poke fun at gender roles and come across as knowledgeable about both
sexes.)



  • (When enjoying a string of laughs.) “You’d better watch it, or you’re going to want to
    see me again. I have to watch out for stalkers, so as long as you’re not one of them.”

  • “What if I said I’d just rather be friends. You’re nice and all, but I’m not ready to get
    into a relationship.” (Spoken with extremely sarcastic tone of voice.)

  • “Hey, if you give me your phone number, I promise I’ll only leave twenty messages
    per day. That’s not too bad, is it? You’ll feel really popular.”

  • “I’ll drive there, if you keep your hands to yourself. You’re always making passes at
    me, and I feel like I’m just a sex object.” (Spoken with fake indignation.)

  • In an elevator with someone attractive: “Don’t you hate it when everyone just stares
    at the numbers? Oh, wait, you probably wonder more about the friendly people in an
    elevator who start chatting you up, huh?” (Smiling, very laid back tone.)

  • In a crowded bar: “Did you just touch my butt? How rude! I don’t even know you!”

  • Passing someone in a bar: “Did you just check out my boobs? I can’t believe it! Ever
    since I got that reduction surgery, everyone stares. That’s so rude.”

  • With a woman who has initiated talk about sex: “I think Sex is way over-rated. Yeah.
    You see, I’m on this new inner-light development program that says I have to be
    abstinent to make myself more attractive.” (Fidgeting and shaking on purpose.)
    “Whaddya think? Is it working?” (Zany look in your eyes.)

  • She mentions children: “Really? Do you like kids? Well, I’m not sure if I’m ready to
    get pregnant yet. I mean, I think I’ve got the hips for it, it’s just that I might gain a lot
    of weight.”

  • She talks about money: “Hey, it sounds like you want to marry your way into my
    family fortune. By the way, have you heard that the new fad is to trade W-2 forms
    and credit reports?”

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