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- Clingy/Needy behavior: The root cause of this is insecurity. Any actions that
tell a woman that you are going to smother her or be an insecure wimp are
sure to turn her off. Things like calling her several times a day, or calling
several days in a row, or acting jealous of her friends. If you threaten her
freedom, she’ll run from you. - Trying too hard: If you’re over-eager or too zealous, she gets suspicious.
- Bragging/loud mouthing: What makes you think she will be attracted to you
when you brag? If you let her find out what you’ve accomplished a bit at a
time, she’ll want to know more. Don’t give away all your mystery. - Angry or violent temper: You must have self-discipline over your emotions.
A woman can’t trust a man with a short fuse; she can only live in fear and
intimidation from him. - Insensitivity: Meaning your inability to tell when you’re teasing and playful
with her as opposed to mean and insulting. - Boring: This really translates into being unable to show women your
personality, most often because of shyness. - Pushy: Getting your way by coercion. Some men whine and push their way
into getting a woman to have sex with them, and then they wonder why it’s
not fulfilling or lasting. - Passive and indecisive: You have to be able to demonstrate some
leadership qualities. Decisive, dominant behavior shows you are an Alpha
Man, and can provide when the time comes. - Inability to listen: I’m sorry ... what were you saying? To keep a woman’s
interest, you must demonstrate the ability to pay attention and not stare at her
nipples. - Acting like a pig: There are men out there that think if they behave as
coarse as possible, a woman will just jump at the chance to rehabilitate him.
Guess again. - Being obvious about sex: Yes, we all want sex. Even women. But if you
come across with this agenda written on your forehead, you’ll strike out
before ever getting to bat. You must learn how to be subtle and let her
wonder. - Impatience: If you are too eager, you will come across as having no self-
discipline. Relax. - Defensiveness: Guys tend to get pissy and defensive in response to a
woman’s moods and negative behaviors. What she will respond to is your
self-discipline and your ability to keep your reactions under control. (More of
this in the section on “Arguments.”) - Negativity: A bad attitude is a turn-off for all women.
- Not Providing: This covers stinginess, being cheap, etc. You don’t have to
be giving up money to her on every date, but if you plan a meeting at a
restaurant, you better be prepared to pay. This is why you plan meetings that
are out of the traditional stereotype of “dating.”