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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.others. Today, there’s little in the way of real physical threats to us that we need to be afraid of,
like famine, or plague, or being attacked by animals. In dating, what’s the worst that could
happen? She says “no?” I’ll take that over the plague any day. And the Truth is that even the
worst approach won’t get rejected more than nine out of ten times.
Set your mind on this new path. You will accept that the worst thing that could happen to
you in meeting a woman is that she says “No,” and that her “No” has nothing to do with who you
are as a man. And when you get a “No,” you’re also getting an opportunity to learn from your
approach and improve it. So you see, in reality, you never lose. (Rewrite the rules!)
When you understand this, when you own it, you might even find yourself hoping a few
women say “No” just to get a little more experience.
What does not kill us, makes us stronger.Integrity ...............................................................................................................................................
A man’s character is all he really has. Your integrity of character will guide you as you as
you enter the dating arena. A firm sense of who you are and what you stand for serve as an
invaluable guide when times are tough. Will you be able to weather those difficult times, stand
tall and proud of what you believe in? Or will you crumble, an emotional mess? It is said that if
you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.
Before you start meeting women and putting yourself out on the market, you should
have a good list of your positive attributes and strengths. Who would seriously consider selling a
product without knowing what its benefits and advantages are over the competition? And that’s
exactly what you’re doing – selling your product (yourself) to your target market (women.)
I made a list for myself that I keep in my wallet as a reminder, and I’m including it here
for you to review. These are the Power Points that remind me that I have the choice to stay or
go, and any woman who can’t recognize these qualities is the loser, not me.
INTELLIGENT/PERCEPTIVE A LEADER GOOD LISTENER
CONFIDENT/COCKY HUMOROUS SELF-DISCIPLINED
CREATIVE GROWING SPONTANEOUS/ADVENTUROUS
EMOTIONALLY MATURE PHYSICALLY FIT/HEALTHY CHIVALROUS/ROMANTIC
CARING/GIVING GREAT DRESSER FLEXIBLE
HIGH INTEGRITY CLEAN GOOD PROVIDER/SUCCESSFUL
BALANCED UPBEAT/POSITIVE KNOW WOMEN/THEIR BODIES
LOYAL RESPONSIBLE SOPHISTICATED
There are a whole host of visualization and affirmation methods out there that can help if
you’ve got some self-esteem issues (and everyone – including me – could stand some
improvement.) See the References at the end of the book for more materials that can help you
in this area.