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Online dating has started from a geek-only last resort of the social misfit, to one of the
most active methods to meet women. For those men out there who may be dealing with a lot of
shyness and "Nice Guy" issues, you should take a look at online resources as an excellent tool
to expand your dating circle and increase your experience. These are the personal ads of the
future, and they are a great way to get active and meeting women.
One caveat you should know up front about online matching services is that they attempt
to answer only one of the two initial questions of relationships: Are we compatible? The other
question -- Do we have chemistry? -- is up to you to determine. As a result, you’ll meet many
people who have similar interests (but by all means this is not guaranteed), and you’ll also meet
a lot of them that you won’t be very attracted to. It’s the nature of the game. You can only
answer one of these questions at a time, and by throwing your line and hook into a pool of fish
that are essentially looking to be caught, you will get a lot of throw-backs. Sure, they put up
pictures, but from my experience they can be very misleading. You won’t know until you meet
her in person if she actually meets your requirements for attraction. I have to emphasize that in
spite of this, being able to get out and fish and catch a few is the best reinforcing dating
experience you can have. I like to refer to these as lab experiments, and it takes a lot of the
pressure off finding Ms. Right on the first coffee date.
Some rules for online dates:- Your profile should be written very poetically and non-specifically. You have to be
different. Don’t list out all your must-haves in here, like “must love Irish folk music,
must love asparagus.” Just start with some appealing romantic imagery. Mix in some
humor and make it different. You want it to spark her interest so that you can get a
chance to sell yourself in person. Don’t be too dodgy; just write something different
from the other guys who are looking for approval.
Try something like this, by a guy who feels he might be a little chunkier than most:
o ‘Describe the woman you are looking for:’ “I’m not looking for her - I’ve
already seen her. She saw me and thought: Wow! What an interesting way to
package such an interesting man. He’s not a super-size, but what a Happy
meal! She just needs to come back to find out where I get the rest of my fire
and ambition.”
o Or, something more poetic than humorous: “She likes to dream, but she’s
afraid to trust, sometimes afraid to risk. But now she knows that even the best
time alone doesn’t compare to a good time with someone to share it with. Her
eyes see grace and poetry in the world, but she’s still a little afraid to tell
others about it for fear of looking too sentimental.” - When you send out emails to the women on the service, you don’t have to custom-
write a letter for each one, if you are careful about your approach. You include one
personal item that tells them you read the profile (not just drooled over the photo),