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usual sensibilities. Something like this:
o “Well, after you get done reading the fifty emails from loser guys telling you
that they’re newly divorced and looking for a job and a new wife, I wanted to
send you something a little different.
Anyways, I’m 30, I’m happy, well-adjusted, and I have a refreshing
abundance of personality. (I hope you like laughing a lot. I saw that you like
Robin Williams in your profile, so I certainly hope so.)
I thought you might make an interesting friend, so let’s talk and find out if
getting a delicious cup of fun with me is better than dating old men from
Tallahassee...”
o “Tell me if this sounds familiar: ‘Hey, I just read your ad, and I wanted to tell
you how beauuuuutiful you are! I’m nineteen, but I’m very sophisticated, and
if I can borrow my dad’s car, I’d love to take you out to see a skateboarding
movie!’
NOT!
Well, if you’d rather have some great conversation with Pierce Brosnan’s not-
so-bad looking third cousin, you should hit that Reply button. And I’ve got my
own car. Honest!”- If she replies to you, email her once or twice, but switch to the phone as soon as
possible. Do not continue to banter back and forth for weeks with her. She’s getting
hundreds of emails every day, and you’ve got to take it to the next step as soon as
possible. - Once you get her on the phone, you will have to talk for a little while with her to help
her build up a little in her trust account. Remember, except the information you put in
your profile, she doesn’t know you from Adam. When you do talk about yourself,
make it light and fun. No heavy stuff about your family or your ex-wife that boiled a
rabbit on your stove. Cut the conversation short (you’re busy, remember?) and get
off the phone. Then call her back two days later to meet for a coffee date. Don’t
seem too eager, just relax into it. From here on, it’s just like any other meeting.
Another possible detriment of online dating you should be aware of is what I call the
"Candy Store" Syndrome. Women who get this much attention and opportunity can become a
bit jaded. Especially if they know they have a large reservoir to draw more potential prospects
from, and then you will have to work harder to stand out from the rest. So remember that if she
doesn’t reply to you, it’s probably because she’s overwhelmed with other loser letters. Try again.
Speed Dating ......................................................................................................................................
I suppose it’s a symptom of our fast-food society that this had to happen, but speed-
dating is the latest in a line of methods for getting single people together. It has its origins in the
Jewish community, and it’s actually very fun and effective. Essentially, a group of men and
women (roughly equal numbers of each) meet at a restaurant or bar. They are then paired up to
talk to each person for just a couple minutes, to talk a little bit and share some information. After
most of the people have met, you rate them as to whether you would be interested in meeting