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YOUR RECOVERY FROM
A GOOD UPBRINGING
Blamelessness is essential if you are going to get over the limited
thinking about money you learned from your family. Decide
how you wish to associate with the people you grew up with. A
family is a dynamic system of rules and roles, boundaries and
bonds. Discover how this system affects your financial life.
Many people report that no matter their success, visiting their
parents makes them feel 10 years old again. You must uncover,
declare, and develop an adult relationship with your parents in
order to begin to live your true purpose. Are your desires OK
with you? Learn to become the source of your own permission.
Upgrade your money vocabulary.From teaching our Trainings and from our consulting work, we
are accustomed to people being skeptical about the effect that fam-
ily conditioning and upbringing have on their financial results.
Some of this skepticism stems from examples of people with unfa-
vorable family conditioning who became millionaires, as compared
to others from so-called better backgrounds who never seem to get
money right. As you will learn in this chapter, the important issue is
not really your childhood experience itself, but rather the conclu-
sions and decisions that you have carried forward from it and that
still operate in your life today.
Your parents didn’t give you useful information about money.
It’s no one’s fault. If we could do so and still maintain a degree of
literary flow, we would repeat that sentence constantly throughout
this chapter: It’s no one’s fault. Your parents gave you everything they
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