I nibbled on a fry while I pondered Eric’s words.
“Why?” I asked.
“Huh?”
“Why wouldn’t I?” said Eric. “It’s good to become friends with a girl before you ask her
out.”
“Is it?” I said. “Is that what you do all the time?”
“Yeah,” said Eric.
“And how’s that been working out for you?”
Eric stared at me blankly. “What?” he asked, trying to comprehend what I was getting at.
“You always complain about how you can’t get anyone to date you,” I said. “You say
they keep just wanting to be friends, and they act all weird when you ask them out. You
ever think that maybe being friends before you date isn’t the best idea?”
Eric stiffened a bit, getting defensive. “Why would I want to date someone I’m not
friends with first?” he asked. “I’m not just looking to get laid, you know. I want a
girlfriend. Someone to share my life with.”
“I understand,” I said. “But you have to wonder, don’t you? If being friends with a girl
was the key to getting her romantically involved with you, then why is it every girl you
befriend doesn’t want to be your girlfriend?”
Eric was quiet for a moment. I could tell I had struck a nerve.
“Look, I’m not saying this to be mean,” I went on. “I know you’re honestly looking for a
good girl to settle down with. And I’m not saying that girl, whoever she may be,
shouldn’t be your best friend in the whole world. All I’m saying is, why do you feel it’s
necessary to be friends before
“Why do you want to be friends with her before you date her?”
you start dating?”“I don’t know,” said Eric. “I guess I like it because the pressure is off, and I feel like I
know the girl better and feel more comfortable.”
“That’s how YOU feel,” I said. “What about how SHE feels?”
“I would think she’d feel the same way,” he replied.
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