Avoid being rude or bitter, not just with the person you’re talking to, but to others around
you. These are negative emotions that drag energy down, no matter where they’re
directed. Always be nice and polite to others.
Looks & Hygiene
By this, I don’t mean you need to be good looking. But you do need to take hygiene
matters into account when you’re trying to be social. If you’re dressed like a bum and
smell bad and have stuff growing on your teeth, few (if any) people will want to be
around you.
Remember, your friends are a reflection of who you are! What does it say about
someone who is friends with a greasy slob who stinks to high heaven? By the same
token, what does it say about someone who is friends with a happy and fun person who
smells nice and looks good?
Shower, bathe, use deodorant, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and wear decent clothes.
You want to project the right image and make it easy for yourself to meet others.
Conversation Skills
We all talk to other people, unless there’s a physical reason we can’t, and even then we
find ways to communicate. But the basics of being a good conversationalist are
important when being able to chat people up.
For instance, knowing how to keep a conversation going. This requires switching topics
from time to time once a conversation has run its course. After all, there’s only so long
you can talk about baseball until it gets boring, right? So have a wealth of things to talk
about and throw them out to see what the other person responds to.
Don’t dwell on boring topics. If someone is talking about something you find
uninteresting, or vice-versa, change the subject to one that is interesting, or funny, or
exciting to both of you.
Stay away from negative topics. Don’t get wrapped up in rape and murder, or the crap
you’re going through in your personal life, or anything like that. Don’t bother with
controversial topics like politics or religion (save that for when you get to know someone
better). Stay positive and keep your energy up when you’re talking.
Don’t just focus on things you want to talk about. Ask questions, and find something
interesting about the person you’re talking to, and explore who they are. Remember,
when all else fails, people (especially women) love to talk about themselves!
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