The Art of Approaching

(Rick Simeone) #1

“Just walk up and ask if you can borrow some suntan lotion.”


“But, what if she doesn’t have any?” said Carl, nervous.


“Then ask her why the hell she’s out in the sun without lotion on. Then offer to find
some for her.” I smiled.


Unfortunately, Carl didn’t think that was as funny as I did.


“I can’t do that,” he said.


“Why not?” I asked. “You walked up to those four women last night.”


“But you had already talked to them,” he said. “That made it easier. Plus, that was in a
bar. You’re supposed to do that stuff in a bar.”


“I thought you wanted me to teach you,” I said. “How can I teach you if you aren’t ready
to learn?”


“I am ready!” said Carl. “I’m just not ready YET.”


I lifted my sunglasses to make sure I had heard him properly.


“Did you just say what I think you said?” I laughed.


“Well, I want to learn, yeah. But I’ve got to lose a couple pounds first.”


I looked at Carl. He wasn’t fat, by any means. He was way thinner than I was. He may
have had a small gut on him, but nothing too bad. I had seen this phenomenon before.


Too often, when we seek to learn something, we want to study as much as we can before
having to apply what we’ve been studying, thinking that is the best way to learn.


So I asked Carl, “Okay, you have to lose a few more pounds. Is there anything else you
need to do before you’re ready to approach a woman?”


“Well,” said Carl, thinking. “I need to be wearing a nice shirt, because women pay
attention to those things. And I’ve got to cut my hair, because it’s a bit long at the
moment. And I have to be making at least another $50,000 a year.”


I tried hard not to laugh. “O-kay,” I said. “And if you do all that, you’ll finally be ready
to ask that girl over there for some sunscreen?”


“Well, not her. But someone else.”


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