To this type of person, nothing good can ever last. People get annoyed with these types
of people and tend to ignore them or distance themselves from them.
An alarmist is the type of guy who gets a great girlfriend, and instantly thinks she’s going
to break up with him. Because of this, his actions are so alarmist that he ends up driving
the girl away with his constant worry and mistrust, so that his fear became a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
Alarmist are always looking for ways to ruin a good thing just to prove to themselves that
they’re right, and bad things always happen to them.
Crippling: The best way to handicap your confidence is to think in ways that cripple all
forms of positive feelings.
Whenever you hear someone say the words “I can’t do that. I just can’t,” they are
communicating the fact that they’re indulging in a crippling habit. “Can’t” is a 100%
sure-fire signal that you’re in a crippling thought process. The statements below are
examples of crippling thinking:
“I can’t have sex. I’m too embarrassed about my body.”
“I can’t talk to her. She’s going to reject me.”
“I can’t kiss her. She’s not ready.”
Now, replace the word “Can’t” with what it really means – “Won’t.”
“I won’t have sex. I want to keep feeling embarrassed about my body.”
“I won’t talk to her. I’m afraid of success.”
“I won’t kiss her. I’m not ready.”
People who indulge in the Crippling habit always look for excuses as to why the WON’T
do something, and then frame it as something that’s actually out of their control.
Whenever you have negative thoughts because of one of these five habits, rewrite them.
Find out what your thinking habits are, which one of these bad habits you rely on the
most, and re-edit the words for yourself.
How you interpret the events around you dictates what you feel.
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