Neuro Linguistic Programming

Chapter 18

Chapter 18: Asking the Right Questions

In This Chapter

▶ Making your questions more valuable

▶ Revealing limiting assumptions that stop you being your best

▶ Heading straight to the heart of an issue

▶ Making tough decisions easier

W

hen you know the ‘right’ questions to ask, you get the results you

want much faster. Throughout this book, in the true spirit of NLP, we

deliberately aim to be non-judgemental, and so you can quite legitimately say

that no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ questions exist, only different ones.

So, we need to be more precise. When we talk about asking the ‘right’ questions,

we’re looking specifically for incisive questions – those that put your finger

precisely on the nub of an issue, those that have a positive effect in the

shortest possible time. In this context, the ‘wrong’ questions are those that

send you off-course, meandering down dead ends, and gathering interesting

but irrelevant information.

In this book, we explain and demonstrate that your language is powerful;

it triggers an emotional response in you, as well as others. Therefore, you

can make a difference as you begin to choose your language with increasing

awareness. In this chapter, we bring together some of the most useful

questions you can ask in different situations to make things happen for

yourself and for others. Knowing the right questions to ask may make a

difference for you when you want to do the following:

✓ Set your life going in the right direction

✓ Make the best decisions

✓ Help others to take more responsibility

✓ Select and motivate people

✓ Coach others to overcome their limitations