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- Physical&Touch:&Physical&touch&is&more&than&sexual.&It&is&holding&his&hand,&touching&his&
shoulder,&giving&him&a&hug,&patting&his&back,&or&snuggling&next&to&him&while&watching&TV.&
The&man&whose&love&language&is&physical&touch&feels&loved&when&his&wife&is&affectionate&
both&privately&and&publically.&^4 &
&
Go&over&the&list&with&your&husband&and&ask&what&says&love&to&him.&You&may&be&surprised.&
You&may&think&that&keeping&the&house&clean&or&cooking&yummy&meals&says&love,&when&what&
he&really&wants&is&quality&time&or&words&of&affirmation.&If&he&can’t&tell&you&what&his&love&
language&is,&ask&him&what&he&longs&for&or&wishes&he&had&more&of.&You&might&be&missing&a&
simple&small&gesture&that&says&“I&love&you,”&and&wasting&time&on&something&that&doesn’t.&
&
Pam&Farrell,&in&her&book,&52%Ways%to%Wow%Your%Man,¬es:&“God&asks,&‘Who&dares&despise&
the&day&of&small&things?’&(Zechariah&4:10).&We&can&ask&ourselves&a&similar&question:&Am&I&
despising&the&small&things&that&matter&to&my&mate?&I&believe&God&wants&me&to&care&about&
the&small&things&in&Bill’s&[Pam’s&husband]&world,&and&you&to&care&about&the&small&things&in&
your&man’s&world,&because&those&small&things&matter&to&him.”&p.&25.&
&
Romance'Challenge'
'
- Ask&your&husband&what&makes&him&feel&loved,&and&then&add&that&to&your&priority&list.&Go&
over&the&five&love&languages&with&your&husband&and&ask&him&what&says&love&to&him.&(My&
husband&wants&me&to&stop&what&I’m&doing&when&he&gets&home&and&give&him&a&hug&and&a&
kiss.&My&tendency&is&to&just&keep&working&on&what&I’m&doing.&This&oneSminute&reprieve&
from&my&busyness&has&blessed&him.)&
& - String&together&an&entire&day&of&ways&you&can&speak&to&him&in&his&love&language&and&get&
busy!&
(^4)
To learn more about the five love languages, see Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages (Chicago, IL:
Northfield Publishing, 1992, 2004).