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The'Superglue'of'Marriage'
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When&I&interviewed&and&surveyed&men&for&my&book,&Becoming%the%Woman%of%His%Dreams,&you&
can&believe&that&sexual&fulfillment&was&at&the&top&of&their&list.&No&surprise&there.&As&a&matterSofS
fact,&it&was&first&and&foremost,&running&neck&and&neck&with&respect.&Sexual&fulfillment&is&
climactic&in&a&man’s&life—pun&intended.&If&you&excel&in&praying&for&him,&respecting&him,&adoring&
him,&initiating&intimate&friendship,&safeguarding&your&marriage,&and&encouraging&him,&but&
neglect&sexually&fulfilling&him,&all&your&efforts&will&be&for&naught.&Sexual&fulfillment&is&the&glue&
that&holds&all&the&other&elements&together.&It&is¬&just&the&glue&of&marriage.&It&is&the&superglue.&&
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Dr.&Kevin&Leman&has&counseled&thousands&of&couples&and&has&determined&that&a&couple’s&sex&
life&is&aµcosm&of&the&marriage.&If&the&sex&life&is&good,&then&the&marriage&is&good.&Very&rarely&
does&he&see&a&bad&marriage&with&a&good&sex&life.^6 &&
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If&your&husband&is&sexually&fulfilled,&he&will&race&a&train,&take&a&bullet,&and&climb&the&highest&
mountain&to&make&sure&you&are&okay.&He&will&be&a&better&father,&better&provider,&better&
employee,&and&even&a&better&sportsman.&That’s&right—sportsman.&Sports%Illustrated&reported&
that&behind&every&MVP&is&a&good&woman—and&just&one.&Happily&married&men&make&better&
baseball&players!^7 &(By&the&way,&how&did&I&know&this?&I&entered&into&his&world&and&read&an&article&
in&his&magazine.)&&
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This&is&what&Dr.&Leman&has&to&say&about&the&sexually&fulfilled&husband.&
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A&sexually&fulfilled&husband&will&do&anything&for&you.&Sex&is&such&a&basic&need&for&men&
that&when&this&area&of&their&life&is&well&taken&care&of,&they&feel&immense&appreciation&
(^6)
Dr. Kevin Leman, Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale
House Publishing, Inc. 2003), p. 10. 7
Hank Ersch and Kostya Kennedy, “Scorecard,” Sports Illustrated, August 17, 1998.