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I’m&sure&you&already&know&this,&but&let&me&just&state&it&for&clarity:&Men&operate&like&a&light&
switch—either&off&or&on...it’s&just&that&simple.&However,&women&are&more&like&a&dimmer&switch.&
We&start&with&a&just&a&hint&of&light&and&then&the&beam&grows&as&the&switch&is&adjusted.&It&takes&a&
man&just&a&few&seconds&to&prepare&for&passion,&but&it&can&take&a&woman&several&hours&to&warm&
up&to&the&idea.&I&know&the&ideal&situation&is&for&a&man&to&kiss&his&wife&on&the&cheek&in&the&
morning,&give&her&a&call&in&the&middle&of&the&day,&help&load&the&dishwasher&after&supper,&and&
then&put&the&kids&to&bed.&That&is&a&woman’s&ideal&idea&of&foreplay.&However,&we&can’t&always&
count&on&that.&
So&what’s&the&solution&if&your&husband&doesn’t&understand&that&sex&begins&with&a&hug&in&the&
morning&and&help&around&the&house&in&the&evening?&What&do&you&do&when&you’re&more&like&a&
CrockSPot&that&needs&to&simmer&throughout&the&day,&and&your&hubby&is&more&like&aµwave&
that&goes&from&chilled&to&steamy&in&sixty&seconds&or&less?&Perhaps&you&need&to&start&the&CrockS
Pot&yourself.&&
Begin&the&day&by&thinking&about&an&evening&of&passion&and&planning&accordingly.&Give&him&a&call&
in&the&middle&of&the&day.&Put&a¬e&in&his&briefcase&that&makes&him&want&to&rush&home&from&the&
office.&You&may&need&to&mark&certain&days&on&your&calendar&to&give&your&mind&a&jump&start&on&
the&evening.&We&schedule&time&for&teacher&conferences,&exercise&class,&manicures,&and&business&
trips.&Marriage&is&much&more&important&than&any&of&these,&so&why&would&we&feel&less&
determined&to&make&time&to&improve&our&marital&relationships.&(And&can&I&say,&right&now,&just&
how&proud&I&am&for&you&getting&to&Day&13!)&
You&know&what&I’ve&discovered?&I&simply&told&my&husband&that&when&he&helps&me&out&around&
the&house,&it&makes&me&want&to&please&him.&We’re¬&exchanging&favors.&I’m¬&paying&him&
for&being&“a&good&boy.”&It’s&just&the&facts.&When&I&feel&Steve&is&loving&me&by&unloading&the&
dishwasher&or&putting&away&the&laundry&(these&have&become&two&of&his&favorite&pastimes),&it&