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include sex. For example, holding hands is a way of connecting physically; it
may also be a first step in acknowledging to each other, and your friends, that
you’re a couple. Another way to express intimacy, affection, and closeness is
through hugging. Giving your romantic partner a hug (bringing him/her close
to your heart) definitely allows you to feel closer emotionally.
Just as there are all kinds of hugs, there are also all kinds of kisses. You can
kiss someone as a way to say hello or thank you. You can kiss a friend to show
you care or to say, “I love you.” A romantic kiss, though, is a very personal and
intimate expression between two people.
Where does sex fit in with hugging and kissing? First, let’s talk about the
word “sex” because it can mean different things. On a purely physical level, sex is
when certain body parts of one person come in contact with certain body parts
of another person. In the simplest terms, these behaviors are sexual activities,
sometimes referred to as “messing around.” Obviously, all sexual behaviors
(including touching of breasts or other body parts) aren’t equal, but they all
have a sexual intention. The most invasive sexual activity is sexual intercourse,or
sexual contact that involves the genitals.
What’s the big deal about sex in general and sexual intercourse in particu-
lar? There are many risks involved.Some of these risks are physical, while some
are emotional.
SEX AND PHYSICAL RISKS
At this point in your life, you’ve probably learned a lot about sex through health
classes, talking with parents or friends, reading about it, or even experimenting.
But do you have enough information to make healthy decisions about it for
yourself? Although, on some level, the physical act may seem simple, sex is
complicated. Often, you hear different things about sex from different people—
things that may or may not be true. This section covers the basics of the physi-
cal risks of sex. If you want more information, see the “Where to Turn” resources
on page 100, and talk to an adult you respect and trust. (It’s important to go to
an adult because your friends, even though they mean well, may not have the
most accurate information about sex.)