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116 The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating
I don’t like her as much as I used to
Hey Terra,I think I might be losing interest in my girlfriend. I’m not sure what it is, but I just don’t like
her as much as I used to. Part of me wants to break up with her, but she’s a really nice
person and I would hate to hurt her. What should I do?StumpedDear Stumped,You’re pulling away from your girlfriend, but you’re not sure why. Looking at the history of
your feelings might reveal some answers.
Remember the good times that you and your girlfriend had together and how you felt
when you were with her then. You once liked her a lot, or she wouldn’t be your girlfriend.
When did your feelings start changing? Can you pinpoint a particular moment when some-
thing happened between you? It could have been a fight or something your girlfriend said
or did. Maybe at the time you pushed your emotions aside and pretended everything was
fine, but deep down the feelings were still there. Unresolved feelings can put distance
between people.
Talk to your girlfriend honestly and tell her about your changing feelings. Give her a
chance to express her emotions as well. The two of you may still break up, but if you treat
your girlfriend with honesty and respect and let her know how you’re feeling, you both can
learn something important about healthy relationships. Good luck!In friendship,
Terra