30 The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating
your weight, you could talk to your doctor about it. Find out if you need to make some
changes in the way you eat or in your activity level. But to answer your question, my guess is
that a girl wouldgo out with a “chunky” guy if she liked him for who he was.
There’s one thing you need to know: the better you feel about yourself, the more likely
it is that you’ll find a girl to have a healthy relationship with. I wish you well.In friendship,
TerraMAKING DECISIONS
As you get older, you get to make more decisions about everything—what you
wear, what classes you take, who you spend time with, who you date (if you
date), where you go on weekends, what you do there, and more. Being respon-
sible for your own decisions can be a mixed blessing. It’s very satisfying to have
more control over your life. But when life gets complicated and choices are hard,
you might miss the days when your mom or dad decided everything for you.
When faced with a decision, do you tend to overanalyze everything and
have a difficult time choosing? Or do you jump into things without consider-
ing the consequences first? Maybe you’re somewhere in between? Or maybe
you decide things differently depending on the situation. Whatever your usual
decision-making style is, here’s an exercise that can help you improve:You’ve been offered two summer jobs—one as a server
at a fast-food restaurant and one as a counselor at a
children’s day camp. You have to decide by the end of
the week, or you lose both opportunities. Which choice
is right for you?Decision-making can be difficult, but in this situation, as with any decision,
you can start by writing down the pros and cons of each choice. For example: