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If you don’t have a bf/gf, stop thinking of yourself as a lonely person looking
for love—and start being a loving person who’s busy living life.
Is my true love someone
exactly like me?
Hey Terra,
In the movies, you can always tell when people meet their true love for the first time because
they look at each other in this special way, like they recognize each other even though they’ve
never met before. I know that things are different in real life, but is meeting your true love the
same as falling in love at first sight? Is it like meeting someone who is so totally like you that
they are your other half?
Waiting to Fall in Love
Dear Waiting to Fall in Love,
You’re right, life isn’t like the movies, although it’s fun to imagine what it would be like if it
was! In real life, people do fall in love “at first sight,” but what they’re probably feeling is a
strong physical attraction. This may or may not develop into love.
I don’t think that you can trulylove someone you don’t yet know. And how can you know
someone you’re meeting for the first time? You may love the way someone looks, but this isn’t
the same as love.Relationships grow as people discover their similarities and learn to respect
and appreciate their differences. Someone who’s totally like you (if there is such a person) isn’t
someone you can learn from or teach anything to. So how can the relationship grow?
Here’s my advice: don’t waste time waiting to fall in love. Get to know yourself better by
exploring your interests and developing friendships. In the process, you may get close to people
who are nothing like you, which will offer you a chance to learn and grow. I wish you well.
In friendship,
Terra