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no guys seem to notice. I’ve also read a lot about how to “catch” a guy, but nothing I do
seems to work.
Needs a Boyfriend
Dear Needs a Boyfriend,
Right now, it’s harder (but definitely not impossible!) for you to be happy as a single girl when
all your friends have boyfriends. I understand that you want to be like your friends in many
ways and to share their experiences. I would suggest, however, that you don’t spend too
much energy worrying about attracting guys and finding romance. Although the magazines
you’re reading may focus on how to look good and “catch” a guy, there are more important
things to concentrate on—like who you really are and what you want to do with your life.
Take the time to develop your character, your strengths, and your talents. Without your unique
personality, all you become is a face and a body. What’s the point of being a girl who’s part
of a couple if you’re nothing on your own?
I know that finding a boyfriend seems very important right now, but my experience tells
me that things happen when they’re supposed to. Instead of being preoccupied with the
search for love, work on becoming a more complete person. Someone who “needs” to be
part of a couple to be happy may be missing some essential pieces of self, such as self-
esteem, self-respect, self-reliance, and self-confidence. When you develop these qualities,
you’ll have more to offer in a relationship. You’ll also be preparing yourself for being on your
own as an adult.
Widen your circle of friends by finding some single girls and guys to hang out with. And
make sure that when you and your girlfriends are together, you agree not to spend all your
time talking about guys and how to find love. Instead, talk about ways to become stronger,
more independent young women. You’re worth it!
In friendship,
Terra