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44 The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating
I feel guilty about what I did
Hey Terra,There’s this girl I know, and we hang out sometimes after cross-country practice (we’ve got a
coed team). On Friday, she was wearing this really nice top and when we were talking after
practice, she was standing much closer to me than normal. Well, after a while, she asked me
if I wanted to touch her breasts. Of course I wanted to, but it didn’t feel like the right thing
to do. But she kept moving closer and saying stuff like, “What’s the matter, are you afraid?”
So I finally touched her, and she seemed to like it. Then she put her hand on my pants, you
know, down there. I’ll admit, it felt really good, but now I feel so guilty about it that I don’t
know if I should cut practice on Monday or what.What Did I Do?Dear What Did I Do,
It sounds like you’re feeling guilty, because your inner voice told you not to do something but
you did it anyway. You may also be a little angry at the girl you touched, because the pressure
she put on you wasn’t fair or respectful. Instead of cutting cross-country to avoid this girl, go
to practice and give it your all. Afterward, talk to the girl about your feelings and let her know
what your boundaries are.
Sexual activities may feel good on a physical level, but if you’re unsure about whether
they’re right for you at this point in your life, you’ll undoubtedly feel some guilt after the fact.
Guilt stays with you longer than even the most pleasant physical sensations. This is why it’s
important to know your values and always listen to what your inner voice is telling you.
I hope this helps!In friendship,
Terra