The Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating: Real-World Advice on Guys, Girls, Growing Up, and Getting Along

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your room. Don’t plan every word you’ll say. (When you really talk to her, you don’t want to

sound like you’ve memorized a script!) It’s fine to think about an opening topic of conversa-

tion, such as a teacher, a class, or an activity you have in common.

Once you can comfortably talk to her in your imagination, start a conversation in real life.

Sometimes getting over that first hello makes things a lot easier. Besides, if she’s friendly, you

won’t have to do all the talking, and by listening, you’ll get to know her better. Best of luck!

In friendship,

Terra

My dream guy already has a girlfriend!

Hey Terra,

I have definitely found my dream guy, but he’s already got a girlfriend, so what should I do?

It doesn’t look like he’s going to notice me or break up with his girlfriend anytime soon.

They’ve been together for the whole six months I’ve loved him. Should I just be patient and

wait for him to realize I’m the love of his life, or should I give up?

Really

Dear Really,

If you’ve waited six months for him to notice you, I’d say it’s time to move on. Besides, it

sounds like this guy cares a lot about the girl he’s already with, which could explain why he

has eyes only for her. A guy who’s involved with someone else is unavailable in my opinion,

so my best advice is to forget about him. The rightdream guy will be as interested in you as

you are in him—that’s how you’ll recognize him. And he’ll be worth the wait! Take care.

In friendship,

Terra