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56 The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating
What do girls REALLY want?
Hey Terra,I think about sex all the time, though I haven’t had a girlfriend yet. Tell me, is it true that girls
say they don’t like guys to hit on them but they really do? I need to know this for the future
because the girl of my dreams just moved into my neighborhood. I haven’t talked to her yet,
but I plan to ask her out!Romeo to BeDear Romeo to Be,
I’m not sure whether you’re talking about “hitting on” as in flirting or pressuring a girl for sex.
It’s risky to make a generalization about whether girls enjoy it when guys flirt a lot (some do,
some don’t). But if you want to know if girls like being pressured into things, the answer is a
definite NO. Some guys think girls say no to play hard to get. This isn’t true, so don’t believe
it. No means no.
So, “the girl of your dreams” is moving into your neighborhood? Cool! I often hear from
teens who want to know how to make the big romantic step when they’ve never even had a
conversation with the guy/girl of their dreams. I suggest that you take it slow and get to know
this girl before you start planning your first kiss. Since she’s new in town, she’ll probably be
glad to meet you, but you need to know her as a real person not a dream girl. Talk to her,
spend time together, and see if you enjoy being around each other.
As for your sexual fantasies, they’re normal, but just make sure that you keep them in
your head, instead of acting them out on girls you don’t know. A good boyfriend is someone
who cares about and respects his girlfriend’s wants and needs. Take care.In friendship,
Terra