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- Prioritize the items on your list. Everything on your list isn’t equally
important. Some items rate as “This is a must!” Others are in the “Would be
good but not essential” category. For example, if you’d like your bf/gf to be ath-
letic (because you are and you want to share that), mark that item “This is a
must!” If you think it would be cool to be involved with someone who’s into
the same music as you are, mark that item “Would be good but not essential.”
After you’ve prioritized your items, get a clean sheet of paper and make two new
columns: one for “This is a must!” and the other for “Would be good but not
essential.” And while you’re at it, number the items in order of importance.
Mark what really matters mostto you number 1. The next item of importance is
ranked number 2. You get the idea. - Review your list. Look it over carefully. Does your list describe anybody
you already know?
Before you go out into the world to find a boyfriend/girlfriend, you’ve got
one more list to make. This one is called the “What I Have to Offer” list. Finding
a good match involves not only knowing what you want but also what you
bring to the relationship.
What I Have to Offer
Seven steps to being the other half of a great couple- Get a pencil and some paper.
- Fold it in half lengthwise. You’ll now have room for two columns.
- At the top of the left-hand column, write this heading: “My strengths
are.. .” - At the top of the right-hand column, write this heading: “My weak-
nesses are.. .” - Make the lists. Write your answers on both halves of the paper. Be totally
honest because no one will see this but you, unless you want them to.