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78 The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating
I don’t know if I trust my girlfriend
Hey Terra,My girlfriend and I have been together for four months. She had this other boyfriend for about
a year, and he still calls her. I know this because my girlfriend’s sister told me, but when I asked
my girlfriend, she said he doesn’t call her. But then a few days ago, she said he does. I asked
her if she still loves him, and she gave me a funny look and said, “We’re just friends.” I really
want to believe her, but some of my friends knew her when she was going out with this other
guy and they say the two of them were a hot couple. So, here’s my problem: can I trust my
girlfriend when she says she loves me? I really love her so I want to believe her, but something
inside of me says she’s lying.Am I the One?Dear Am I the One,
Your girlfriend might be hiding something from you, which could explain why she changed
her story about the phone calls. But, in fairness, are you making it safe for her to talk to you
honestly? Ask yourself these questions: How would you feel if she had a friendship with her
ex? Would that be okay? And, if so, have you told her you’d accept it? My suggestion is that
you and your girlfriend have a conversation about the importance of honesty and trust. Can
you both agree to be more open with each other? Healthy relationships need trust to work.
Good luck!In friendship,
TerraJealousy (lack of trust)
Jealousy is a powerful emotion that you feel in your head and body. Your chest
may tighten up, your stomach may feel weird, and you may be so out of control
emotionally that you can’t even think straight. When you feel jealous, you
believe someone else has something you want. For example, you might feel