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My boyfriend has two girlfriends!
Hey Terra,
Should I tell my boyfriend that I know he’s got another girlfriend who goes to a different
school? I know it’s true because a really good friend of mine goes to that school and has seen
my boyfriend and this girl kissing at basketball games and school dances.
Miserable
Dear Miserable,
Did you and your boyfriend make an agreement not to date other people? If not, it’s time to
talk about whether you both want this kind of relationship. If you already dohave this type
of agreement, he’s betrayed your trust, and he owes you an apology. Tell your boyfriend what
you’ve heard and how you feel, so you can find out how much he values your relationship. If he
likes things the way they are (and you don’t), it’s up to you to decide whether you’re willing
to continue going out with him even though he’s seeing someone else. Thanks for writing.
In friendship,
Terra
Communication
Besides respect and trust, healthy relationships require open communication.
That means you and your boyfriend/girlfriend talk freely—there aren’t “off-
limits” subjects between you—and you can express your feelings without judg-
ment. Using open communication, the two of you can learn about each other
on a very personal level and come to understand each other more deeply.