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Making Boyfriend /Girlfriend Relationships Work 87
How can our relationship last
when my boyfriend is away?
Hey Terra,
I’m seventeen, and I’m in love with my boyfriend who’s so sweet and caring. Other relation-
ships never lasted because the guys were jerks and also because I was too immature to know
what I really wanted. Now I know, and I feel so lucky to have found the right guy. The prob-
lem is this: my boyfriend is transferring out of state to a large university, and I have another
year of high school. I wonder if the relationship can last while he’s away. I can’t bear to think
about what my life will be like without him. Is there anything I can do to make sure we’re
always in love the way we are now?
Juliet
Dear Juliet,
It’s wonderful to find someone who’s sweet and caring. I’m sure the thought of losing that
closeness is difficult. But your boyfriend needs to pursue his education and his dreams, and
you have a life to live where you are. I know you’re looking for definite answers, but some
things in life just have to happen as they happen.
There are no guarantees that your love will last. The best I can suggest is that you and
your boyfriend communicate openly and frequently about what’s going on and how you’re
feeling, now and when you’re apart. The good news is that with chat rooms, instant messag-
ing, and email, it’s easier than ever to keep the channels of communication open. And regular
mail is still a fun way to keep in touch. Enjoy your last year of high school and know that your
relationship will work out exactly the way it’s supposed to. Also, know that you can enjoy your
life with or without a boyfriend. Thanks for writing.
In friendship,
Terra