The Taqua of Marriage

(Dana P.) #1
“And He it is Who has withheld their hands from you and your hands from them in
the midst of Makkah, after He had made you victors over them...”
(Q, 48:24)

The ‘Rest of God’ is manifest by peace and tranquility ( As-Sakkinah ), and is
actually the state of peace one attains in taqua’s rest from the fear of hell. It is
a covenant of faith (iman) and a gift of grace in which there are two
impartations as indicated in v. 48:4; the first being at birth where it is written
that every child is born a natural Muslim inclining itself towards Allah with
inherent (inborn) faith. The second is on reaching the age of reason and
taking the covenant sincerely and consciously. At this time, the Covenant
(pledge of faith) as mentioned above is confirmed by the hand (again by
touch v.44:55), but the giving or withholding of this metaphysical touch is by
Allah, as plainly stated in v. 24. This touch can be reversed to war as is also
implicit in the verse. All manifestations depend upon the dispensation of
grace, and grace depends upon man’s effort to attain it – i.e. deeds rather than
just doa. We may conclude therefore, that those who live without this
dispensation live in a constant state of war, unconsciously with God,
themselves, their family and their neighbors, and consciously with their
known enemies. This is discussed and described in the next section.


Is it not ‘peace and tranquility’ that surround the infant and for which every
effort (deed) is made by the mother to maintain it? Is it not As-Sakkinah that
the infant gives and seeks in return when its precious little hand grasps that
of its mother and father? Is this touching (deed) not a covenant of trust and
affirmation of Faith? Observe therefore, ponder and contemplate dear
reader: This touching is the first manifestation of faith! Therefore, it is
incumbent upon the parents to not only take the pledge of their infant, but
also to maintain their taqua as they are the babe’s collective imam of the
masjid of marriage and deen so as to soberly guide this same child to the
second pledge at puberty.


It is no accident that:



  1. The ‘age of reason’ (puberty and accountability) is the same age in
    which the end-organ sexual response system is activated;

  2. That in search of Amana the sexualization of the infant via touching,
    both psychologically and physiologically, occurs during the first 45

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