For non-Muslims, the principle is the same because spiritual values governing
marital relations are inherent and equally valid despite belief systems.
Therefore, to apply this principle is easy. It merely requires that your wife
witnesses your own submission to a man she and others in your circle
consider wise. This person is, generally speaking, a man whom you respect as
a leader of men, a man whose disapproval of your actions and decisions
would make you—as well as your family and friends—uneasy or embarrassed.
The short end of this deep seated emotional and spiritually centered principle
is this: without your own submission to a man greater than you, or to a
fellowship of male peers if you’re an elder, your wife will not be comfortable
submitting to your degree of authority which is above her own, even if she
obeys you in all things.
TWO^ Your wife must know that she fulfills vital needs in your life^
She is the means by which you draw others to right living and, unfortunately,
the inverse is also true. She does this by the public demonstration of her free-
willed submission to your leadership and manhood. A wife who does not
submit publicly demonstrates that her husband is a weakling and much to his
embarrassment, and there are indeed women who take pleasure in this
sadistic modality and men who submit to them as masochists. Nevertheless,
if taqlid or “blind following” is practiced and you are an innovator of the left
hand, then her submission aids you in drawing others to the fires of Hell.
Considering that 72 of 73 Muslim sects are ‘people of the fire’ according to
Hadith , this should give us all grave cause for concern, especially in view of
the dismal innovations in which Muslims generally handle women’s rights.
A wife’s surrender actually validates your authority in the community, and
this unique grace of freely-given submission represents the Divine Order of
Government and explains why the Prophet taught that no woman should
marry against her will or be placed in State authority with power. You must
therefore, reciprocate as her husband by acknowledging her unique role in
your life and do not allow just any woman to do for you whatever tasks your
wife does, including sex, without either her permission or knowledge! Should
you do so, it is an act that undermines her self-confidence and standing