authority in the fellowship of women in your community and as your consort^11
- which then opens a door for her to be mocked and disrespected. This would
be akin to hiring someone for an important executive position and then
delegating their duties to someone outside the firm!
If there is another woman in your life or professional-work milieu, make
certain she is known to and/or accepted by your wife. Never discuss marital
problems with this other lady, and make certain you praise your wife to her.
This other woman – including other wives – must make the purpose of your
marital responsibilities to each wife their own priority, even to the point of
admonishing you should they see you neglect any of them.
As your consort, she should ‒ from time to time ‒ observe that you humble
yourself and confess your failures. Seeing this, she will praise your successes
even more. Her position as your consort (co-regent) is an intimate extension
of your own authority and influence that endorses her uniqueness as your
companion in the community and strengthens her sense of identity and
purpose. Furthermore, a wife with intact instincts is a natural alarm system
given to you by God as a safeguard against persons with wrong motivations,
and secondarily, her intuition serves to protect you from making hasty
decisions! This latter is because she requires security and consistency in your
behavior, and as such, this is a significant aide to the trial of self-discipline
and taqua. Furthermore, her uniqueness is magnified by the fact that only
she can discern the real needs of your children, hence you should also praise
her and thank her for being a good mother. It is therefore beneficial for you to
discover those areas of your life in which she uniquely fulfills a need, and then
tell her exactly how you depend upon her for these things. Her love for you
will be sealed in a continuum of bliss should you take the time and effort to
do so.
THREE^ She needs to see and know that you cherish and delight in her^
This is the chief key to the suite of lasting romance and perennial honeymoon
renewals! She must know that you hold her with such great regard that you
actually praise her to others. She desires and needs to hear you say what it is
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Consort: n, a wife, husband, or companion, in particular the spouse of a reigning
monarch. (Ox. Dict.)