gain a temporary victory, any persistent behavior of this sort will erode
the foundation of your marriage and cause its’ failure.
You are not his conscience or his judge! Read that again! Make
suggestions not demands; requests rather than commands. Do so by
appealing to his lordship and he will continually polish the crown of your
regency as queen.
Do not expect him to read your mind. You must tell him all of your
concerns and you must not resist his decisions! Let him know the fears
you bear, so that he may grow strong in his self-worth by setting cautious
limits of protection in your physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional life.
Do not rehearse his failures and do not show loyalty to other men as
leaders. The purpose of your loyalty (fidelity) towards him alone is to
help control his ambitions and thus, guide his leadership through the
diplomacy of your graceful submission and set an example for others,
especially your children. This is an act of Dakwah.Two A husband needs a wife who accepts his leadership and
believes in his God-given responsibilities.
By scripture, husbands are commanded to govern (guide) their wives and
wives are commanded to submit. He needs you to reassure his leadership
through your submission because this is, in fact, the Will of God! The
Kingdom of God on earth is actualized only through a man’s decisions – be
they good or bad. Bad decisions reveal areas of his character and judgment
that need improvement: therefore, even when you see an error in the making,
do not rise up but rather avoid the matter and let it come to pass gracefully.
Do not rebuke or condemn him, but humbly appeal and offer help. This act
of faith demonstrates the piety that protects you and reinforces your trust in
both God and your husband, that they will establish whatever remedies are
required – and remember always that the greatest success is born of failure!
The more you show trust in him, the greater care he will take in giving
direction.
Loyalty under pressure and error is essential to a man’s growth in
leadership, and such loyalty is demonstrated only in adversity! If
sometimes he seems to take you for granted, it is only because he trusts