approval or pleasure of his wife, but rather her acceptance of his vision
and its successful validation by his peers and superiors. As his wife you
are neither his peer nor his heart’s desire, so just forget the romantic
idolatry! You are his heart’s necessity , and once he has found you he
returns to his vision (his work) with greater zeal!
A wife’s rejection or indifference to her husband’s vision is a
fundamental cause for estrangement and the downfall of many marriages.
And it most probably is a major sign of incompatibility, which is best
resolved by a peaceful ‘no-fault’ divorce. Therefore, when he shares his
views be attentive and look at him in admiration as he speaks, especially
when he talks to others, because this inspires their respect for him and his
work. From time to time, express your gratitude for the benefits of his
provision and enquire as to the progress of his heart’s desire and offer
assistance in any way possible. You will not regret this! And bear in mind
that if you cannot appreciate, or accept, or support his work and the
purpose of his vision, chances are you have chosen the wrong husband.Three A husband needs a wife who continues to manifest
inner and outer beauty.
How you dress and style your hair reflects your submission to authority,
and is a basis for the spiritual protection that manifests inner strength,
beauty, and self-control. This protects you from the intent of men with an
evil eye and clearly announces to other women that you are not in
competition with them! For women who choose not to wear hijab, please
realize that your hairstyle must please your husband rather than fashion. A
woman’s hairstyle signifies many aspects of her character that are readily
discerned by the cunning and the wise, such as: femininity vs. masculinity;
contentment vs. frustration; neatness vs. carelessness; submission vs. pride;
diligence vs. weariness; softness vs. hardness; self-acceptance vs. self-
rejection; obedience vs. defiance; organization vs. disorder; discipline vs.
inconsistency; reverence vs. idolatry, modesty vs. immodesty. And of course,
wearing hijab in public is one of the highest expressions of all the above in
piety.
A wife should always dress modestly and to please her husband. Men are
visually stimulated, so dress accordingly but not revealingly. Control your