conversation, the husband rejects her feminine intellect as if it (she) were
worthless. This is an effective denial that her abilities are divinely endowed
for the sake of his best interests. Every woman knows this instinctively and
will grow to dislike such men despite loving them.
Furthermore, the latter circumstance predisposes her to admire almost any
man who will listen to her, and thus, the inattentive husband actually opens
the door for fitnah and perhaps zina. Don Juans of the International Cad
Society (especially cult leaders, Bomohs and certain would-be Shayks of
dubious merit) have become expert listeners until they reach the sinful goal.
Unfortunately, many husbands are of the same ilk until after they marry,
after which, they censor the poor girl who fell in love with their once-
attentive ears and imprison her in bed, kitchen, nursery and laundry rooms.
This is not the taqua of marriage, nor does it lead to sexual fulfillment and
bliss, and neither does it help the man make intelligent decisions.
When a man refuses to listen to his wife, he removes her from the scale of
marital taqua where he then sits alone unbalanced and wanting. Like it or
not, it‘s as simple as that!
Weakness and Strength
The masculine attributes of cognition and behavior are focused (smaller field
of vision), goal oriented, singularly logical and rigid. They are aimed at
problem solving, conquest and control (government) rather than harmonious
egalitarian virtue. These are clearly balanced by communion with feminine
attributes solicited vis-à-vis marriage, sisters and mother as opposed to in-
feminization or ‘getting in touch with a feminine side’; something that doesn’t
exist in authentic human males.
To the contrary, a woman generally lacks the capacity for firm resolve and
tends to meander or circumambulate in her cogitations. Hence, she is quick
to make compromise for what may be a dangerous peace and false sense of
security. However, when cornered or insulted, she may lean towards an
irrational extreme of obstinacy and become less willing to conciliate than the
strongest male, and may even self-destruct or devastate the very thing she
thinks she desires or loves, when in fact, feeling her self-willed expectations
and worth threatened, it is her own safety and pleasure with which she is