BODY LANGUAGE IN THE WORKPLACE

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anger. There should also be a synchronization between the facial
and the body expression of anger. If they don't match, then you
know something is wrong.

THE METHOD AND THE MASK
Although perceiving these elements can help you detect a lie,
no clue to deceit in face, voice, words, or body language is foolproof.
The people who can lie the best and get away with it often use a
technique similar to the Stanislavsky school of acting. They find
a situation within their own past experience, either of joy, sadness,
honesty, or anything else that matches the lie, and they bring it
up to the present so it colors how they feel, and that feeling
goes into the lie.
Using that technique, they have found the emotional material
to match the lie, and there is less chance that any true feelings
will show. In one sense they believe the lie—or at least the feelings
that should accompany the lie. In a sense, they are similar to
pathological liars, who believe their own lies.
For the liar who cannot use the Stanislavsky method and can't
believe the lie, the best way to make sure the truth is hidden is
to use some sort of mask. The best mask is a false emotion, and
the expression used most often is a smile.
I once worked for a CEO who was going through some serious
medical problems at the same time the company was in the midst
of important negotiations. The CEO realized that he didn't dare
show his physical weakness or that he was in a great deal of
pain. As a mask to cover up his real feelings, he smiled constantly.
Although there were clues that his smile was false, they weren't
picked up by the other negotiators, and he successfully weathered
his physical problems without anyone knowing about them.

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