Journal work
Write in your journal, once a month, about the areas in your life
where you’re feeling unmotivated. Write down all the details: How did this situation come about?
Who is involved?
How would I like it to be?
What is my role in creating the situation?
What changes can I make?
What have I learnt from this book that I could apply?Here’s a serious consideration: there will always be aspects of your life that are not
working. Don’t focus on these issues on a daily basis – this will lead to negativity and
unhappiness. Once a month, sit down and reflect on what’s not working. Identify
what is OUT of your control and what is IN your control. If the ‘not working’ is about
someone else’s behaviours, you DON’T have much control over it and focusing on it
incessantly will leave you feeling frustrated, irritated and sometimes depressed.
What you DO have control over is your own thoughts, feelings, attitudes and
behaviours towards this person. I get that this is hard to swallow! What you can do
and have the power to do is to reflect on your own issues and change something you
are doing, saying or thinking. In this way you can influence the other person’s
reaction towards you.
Learn to let go of issues that are outside of your control – focusing on these issues
causes you undue emotional stress and pain. Focus on being the change that you
want in your life. This is where your power lies.