your focus. There will still be good and bad – that’s how life is – but you have a
choice on how you would like to feel about it.
Jenny Leclezio, Life Coach and Human Resources Specialist, writes:
“Another view holds that there is no right or wrong, just different opinions.
As human being you are limited in being able to see everything that is – your
perceptive abilities cause us to filter a lot of information out as it is the only
way you can cope with the massive amount of data that comes your way.
There is however always the element of choice in what you choose to focus
your attention on. Yes, it’s true that through who you are, your upbringing
and your basic personality, you tend to look at the right or the wrong, but the
good news is that you can change this. It is not that the bad things aren’t
there, but rather that you will be so much happier when you focus on the
good and you only have so much energy so when you are focusing on what’s
right, you tend to stop focusing on what is wrong.
There is a tool in change management called the force field analysis that
provides a useful perspective. The next time you are feeling like something
can’t be done, write down all the reasons why. This you call forces against.
Divide the page in half and then take the alternative position strongly –
brainstorm all the reasons why it can be done. It is amazing how going
through this process can shift us and give a different perspective.”When your focus is continually on what’s not right and what’s not working you’ll find
that you feel dreadful. When you are in a un-resourceful state, you don’t only feel
dreadful, you’re un-motivated and you don’t achieve much. You may find your
emotions are at a low, you’re lacking energy and perhaps feeling overwhelmed by all
the things you have to do. So, you sit around feeling terrible and doing nothing.
When you are in a resourceful state you get lots done. You feel upbeat and
motivated and have lots of energy. You feel capable and are able to cross many
things off your list of things to do.
I believe that everyone experiences both these states at different times in life. You
may be able to list the reasons (or excuses) that get you into either of the states.
Imagine how empowered you’d feel if you were able to switch from an un-
resourceful to a resourceful state. If you minimise the amount of downtime you
experience from being in an un-resourceful state, and spend most of your time living
in a motivated, resourceful state, the life you desire would be so much closer.