Self-Realization and Other Awakenings

the mind uses to suppress these emotions, and how the
emotions gradually leak through mental mechanisms in
order to express themselves unconsciously, and often
in destructive ways.
Most people who go into spirituality should really
be with a good psychotherapist so that they learn how
to dwell in a full acceptance of the personal, the
vulnerable human side of oneself, as opposed to the
transcendental side that Ramana, Nisargadatta and
Robert Adams talk about.
Most spiritual seekers have an idea of the
transcendental side, of what Ramana’s interior life was
like, and want to reach that stage of “imagined” love,
self acceptance, and being untouched by life, and
want to go there without going through an opening of
all of their emotionality, vulnerability, fragility,
brokenness and fear.
But as Ken Wilbur pointed out, as well as many
others, the stuff that was never completed, the
emotional work that was never completed, especially
revolving around issues of love and losing love, will
always come around to bite you again, no matter how
much progress you make towards the transcendental,
no matter how many states of samadhi you have
experienced, no matter how many times you had lucid
dreams, no matter how many times you have touched
the ‘I Am’ and then been immersed in it, you will