The Definitive Book of Body Language

Eye Signals

Women's wider peripheral vision lets them appear to be looking in

one direction when they are, in fact, looking in another.

How to Grab a Man's Attention

When a woman wants to get a man's attention across a room

she will meet his gaze, hold it for two to three seconds, then

look away and down. This gaze is long enough for her to send

him a message of interest and potential submission. An exper-

iment by Monika Moore PhD, of Websters University, showed

that most men are not hardwired to read a woman's first gaze

signal so she usually needs to repeat it three times before the

average man picks up on it, four times for really slow men and

five or more times for the especially thick. When she finally

gets his attention she will often use a small version of the

Eyebrow Flash that is a small, subtle eye-widening gesture that

tells him the signal was intended for him.

Sometimes a simple face-to-face verbal approach of 'Hey, I

like you!' is more effective on men who are slow on the uptake.

Most Liars Look You in the Eye

As we said earlier, many people associate lying with looking
away. We conducted a series of experiments where participants