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a year later to celebrate my accomplishments. Remember how
I planned to , and I did it! ” The person sharing will do so for
two and a half minutes. Don ’ t worry, the time will fl y by; let loose
and have some fun with this!
The other person will simply listen supportively. This means
mouth closed, ears open, eyes encouraging, and no free advice — the
listener should simply be there to hear the friend ’ s goals outlined
and the specifi c details of how he or she will accomplish them.
After two and a half minutes, the listener gets one minute to
retell or synthesize what he or she heard; then the original person
who initially shared gets thirty seconds to edit or add to the listener ’ s
recap.
The exact same experience will be repeated again for two and a
half minutes, with the exception that the listener will now repeat-
edly interrupt with doubting, negative comments. Although this
is diffi cult for some people to hear as they share their passionate,
enthusiastically expressed goals, it does give them an opportunity to
know what it will feel like when they get home to a world that will
not consistently agree with and affi rm their best intentions. This
time, the person who was attempting to share his or her goals gets
a minute to share what it felt like to be interrupted and negated,
then the listener has thirty seconds to assure the person that he or
she did not enjoy being that negative!
Be sure to end this dyad (exchange between two) with the original
person again sharing, for two and a half minutes, his or her enthusi-
asm for the abundance he or she will have succeeded at co - creating
(by a year from today). Have this fi nal role - play exemplify all of the
enthusiasm and passion one can express. Again, the listener will take
a minute to affi rm his or her success and share in the joy that results
from being a part of someone ’ s really making a difference in the
world. The initial person who shared may again have thirty seconds
to add whatever thoughts and feelings have come up.
Then, of course, the same instruction will apply for the second
person sharing for two and a half minutes, then listening to what
the listener heard for a minute, then having thirty seconds to cor-
rect or revise; then repeating it again while the listener interrupts